To a healed heart
Misma's Counselling Services
This blog is a space for thoughtful reflection on life’s many nuances,
sharing insights from counselling, psychotherapy, and psychology,
along with some free-flowing thoughts and reflections.
We all have desires we wish to fulfil and goals we aim to achieve, often requiring clear and practical steps to reach them. Yet, we frequently undermine these aspirations ourselves. Self-sabotage is one of the most puzzling aspects of human behaviour. This can range from small acts, like breaking a diet by indulging in a big piece of chocolate cake, to more significant decisions, such as entering a relationship we know is bound to end badly. At its extreme, self-sabotage can manifest in highly destructive behaviours, like self-harm, risky actions, or addiction. But why do we do this?
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Why therapy work is still an on-going discussion, but when it does work - it often mirrors the attachment dynamics found in good parenting.Attachment theory, initially developed by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth in the mid-20th century, has had a profound influence on psychotherapy. This theory posits that the bonds formed between babies and their primary caregivers have a lasting impact on an individual's emotional and relational patterns throughout their life. In the context of psychotherapy, understanding attachment styles can greatly enhance the therapeutic process and outcome, especially when it comes to healing from emotional distress or trauma.
The perception of neediness and emotional dependency often carries negative connotation in our society: in psychotherapy; individuals, particularly those unfamiliar with the process, may hold a doubtful view of clients or patients who lean heavily on their therapist for support. There's even a cynical notion that therapists intentionally foster emotional dependency to gain an advantage. It's a prevailing belief that emotional dependency within psychotherapy is seen as undesirable.
Understanding the Burden of Shame and Guilt Shame and guilt are complex and often deeply ingrained emotions that can significantly impact our mental health and wellbeing. As a counsellor or psychotherapist at Misma Counselling Service, I believe it’s crucial to understand these emotions and explore how they can affect our lives. I think - for me, that the dynamics of shame and guilt is perhaps one of my reasons that lead me to want to study the mind, as I wished to understand the ability to undermine our pursuit of a good enough life.
In our modern society, discussion around men’s health often focus on physical wellbeing, leaving mental health in the shadows. However, it’s crucial to recognise that mental health is just as important as physical health for leading a fulfilling and balanced life. In this blog post, we’ll look into the significance of men’s mental health, common challenges they face, and practical strategies to promote mental wellbeing.
"I was able 'to sit' with my feelings and emotions. I no longer have the need to binge or purge this emotions" shared my client who worked through their eating disorders. Understanding eating disorders can be challenging if you haven't experienced them yourself. While many are familiar with anorexia and bulimia, there are lesser-known disorders like AFRID (Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder). Diagnosing these disorders is complex due to the overlapping symptoms, and they may manifest differently at various stages of one's life.
The current pandemic is leaving many of us anxious and worried. Uncertainty and the unknown shake our basic life routines, we loose our life structures, leaving us feeling confused and lost. Confusion and loss can create a negative imagination and this is fear. The fear of contagion and the virus can impact on our psychological responses.
Understanding the Alarming Reality: Suicide Rates in MenSuicide is a global public health concern that affects millions of individuals and families each year. It is a complex issue with various contributing factors, including mental health struggles, societal pressures, and individual circumstances. One significant aspect that demands attention is the higher incidence of suicide in men. I revisit the blog I did a few years ago, and this blog will explore the reasons behind this troubling statistic and navigate potential pathway for prevention and support.
Can A Relationship Survive After Cheating?Indeed, it's important to recognise that there are many other reasons for cheating, some of which may have little to do with the dynamics, attitudes, appearances, or behaviours of either partner in the relationship. Let's explore a constructive approach to repairing your relationship and rebuilding the trust that was shattered by infidelity. In this blog, I'll explore the various factors that influence the potential for recovery. "If the feeling is mutual, the effort will be equal" Benefits of Mung Beans and recipeOur mental wellbeing is described as mental state - This is, how we are feeling and how well we can cope with day to day life. Our mental health is dynamic, it changes from moment to moment, day to day, or week to week and so on and so forth. Whilst our mental health is needed to be dealt by a trained professional, there are many things you can DO to promote your mental wellbeing. We often fail to remember that food has a major role in the development of our mental wellbeing.
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Code of EthicsI am a Registered Member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy and I am abide thy their code of ethics. This include having regular supervision and Continued Professional Development (CPD) for further information please visit: www.bacp.co.uk/ethical_framework/ |
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