Personal Growth & Lifelong Learning

Abraham Maslow’s concept of self-actualisation reminds us that we all have an innate drive to grow, develop, and fulfil our potential. His well-known Hierarchy of Needs shows that growth happens step by step, and that self-actualisation — “becoming everything one is capable of becoming” — is about living authentically, staying connected to our feelings, and engaging fully with life.
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For me, personal development is a lifelong journey. Reading self-help and personal growth books helps me keep my skills sharp, nurture my mindset, and stay aligned with my goals. I see it as topping up my own cup so I can pour into the lives of others. Alongside CPD and professional training, reading remains one of the most accessible and nourishing ways I continue to learn, grow, and inspire others.

1. Brain Power – Karl Albrecht
My first-ever self-development book, gifted by a dear friend years ago — and I still have it. This book introduces six thinking skills to help you become more adaptable, creative, and effective in problem-solving. I recently re-read it and found new, practical tips, especially from Chapter 12, which I’m using to work on changing habits.

​2.The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do and How to Change – Charles Duhigg
​This insightful book explores the science behind our habits — how they are formed, why they persist, and how they can be changed. Duhigg presents compelling stories and research showing that once we understand the habit loop (cue, routine, reward), we can begin to reshape our behaviours in both personal and professional life.

I found this book eye-opening, especially in recognising how small changes in daily routines can lead to lasting transformation. It’s a reminder that habits are not destiny — they’re patterns we can consciously rewire.

3. The Diary of a Young Girl – Anne Frank
While not a traditional personal development book, this is one that profoundly shaped my outlook on life. Anne’s courage, honesty, and resilience taught me the true meaning of bravery and the belief that all people deserve to live in freedom, regardless of race or religion.

Written in the voice of a 13-year-old girl hiding with her family during World War II, the diary begins with moments of hope before gradually revealing the harsh reality of their situation. It’s a powerful reminder of human dignity in the face of fear, and it has stayed with me ever since I first read it.

4. Lion: A Long Way Home – Saroo Brierley
A deeply moving and inspiring true story of survival, resilience, and the power of the human spirit. At just five years old, Saroo was lost thousands of miles from home in India. Against all odds, he found his family again twenty-five years later. 
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This memoir is a testament to hope, determination, and never giving up on what truly matters. It’s a reminder that even in the most impossible circumstances, perseverance can lead us home. 

5. Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender – Dr David R. Hawkins
This book offers a powerful yet gentle approach to releasing the inner blocks that keep us from peace and happiness. Dr. Hawkins explains how surrendering—rather than resisting—our emotions can free us from patterns of stress, fear, and limitation.

Reading this reminded me that healing often comes not from pushing harder, but from allowing and accepting. The concept of “letting go” is simple yet deeply transformative, and I’ve found it invaluable in both my personal life and my work with clients. For healing and clarity. 

6. The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem – Nathaniel Branden
This book is a cornerstone for understanding and building healthy self-esteem. Nathaniel Branden outlines six daily practices—pillars—that support self-worth, including living consciously, self-acceptance, and personal integrity. 

It helped me see self-esteem not as a vague feeling, but as something we actively nurture through our choices and actions. I often draw on these principles in therapy, as they offer a clear, practical path for developing confidence and self-respect.

7. The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts – Gary D. Chapman
A dear friend reminded me about this book recently, and I realised I’d had it for years—tucked away on my shelf, a gift from someone special. I picked it up again and was quickly reminded why it’s such an essential read.

Falling in love can feel effortless, but staying in love—that’s the true challenge. This book explores five distinct “love languages” that shape how we give and receive love. Learning to recognise and speak your partner’s love language can transform not only romantic relationships, but also the way you connect with friends, family, and colleagues.
It’s powerful, practical, and eye-opening—knowledge that can truly improve all your relationships.