Fighting your fear of flying
Back in 2014, my brother and his wife were planning to attend our wedding here in the UK. They bought their flight tickets from Jakarta-Heathrow, arranged UK visa and was approved. My brother was excited and so was I.
On the day of departure, they were all set to the airport, suitcases were packed, and ready to board. Then my sister-in-law, started to get a panic attack, then the panic attack worsened as the time for boarding was nearer. The airline was calling their names to be boarded , but my sister in law was crying hard, held tight to her chair, and struggled to breathe. My brother had to get help from the paramedic, at this point. Then the plane flew without them. They lost the chance of holiday and not able to attend my wedding, moreover - non-refundable tickets!
Aerophobia (some called it - aviophobia), is the fear of flying - it is not a new phobia. It is one of the most common phobias in this modern world. Apparently, it is estimated to affect one to 10 people in the UK, that means around 5,6 millions of us. Wow.. I know at least 5 of my friends have aerophobia.
The themes from fear of flying can be varied - from engine failure, crashing, terrorism or lighting strikes. However, flying itself normally isn't the issue, for most - it is the anxiety that you will experience on the plane with no idea how to manage it, feeling trapped that 'you are too far up there' and feeling out of control. The symptoms can include sweating, dizziness, nausea, panic attack, heart palpitation and hyperventilating.
Amazing countryside and ancient history
So often, when people asked me where I am from, (apart from Indonesia), I answered "I'm from Exeter", and instantly I got this puzzled face. I then said again, slowly in case they misunderstood my pronunciation "Exeter". Still puzzled.
Then I said "It's in Devon, South West of England, near Cornwall" (and of course it is nowhere near Conrwall!), then some of them would say "ahhh" still sounded unsure where it is, or some of them would say " oh ya, I know - it's near Plymouth right" - wrong! but it's closer than Cornwall. Only few of them know where Exeter is, mostly people had been studied at its famous University, University of Exeter.
If you haven't been to Exeter, or if you are still wondering where you would spend a nice and cosy weekend, with the flavour of country side yet still within a city vibe, I recommend you come and visit Exeter.
You start exploring Exeter with its ancient history which is dated to 50AD. Pretty amazing innit! At the heart of Exeter city stands the magnificent Exeter Cathedral, more than 900 years old, this beautiful building is one of the great cathedrals of England. Its Gothic architecture seemingly portrays the whole structure of the building. For those who thrill with height, there are special Roof and Tower tours available, giving you panoramic views of Exeter and beyond. For those fancy walking underground, there is history below ground too. Beneath the buzzing High Street, lies Exeter's Underground Passages. This passage was built to bring spring water in the city, and was constructed in medieval times. Guides tours operated daily and you can discover the fascinating heritage of Exeter.
If you still have time to spare - Exeter's Royal Albert Memorial Museum is free to visit. It's located in city centre and it will take you on a voyage of discovery from prehistory to the present day. Often, they have exhibitions from our local artists.
Alternately you can pick up a trail map and take self-guided walks around Exeter. A popular choice is the City Wall Trail which tells the story of Exeter's 2000 year-old Roman city wall that is still about 70% remaining and a medieval guildhall still in use today. Beyond the city walls, there are further heritage actuations to discover, such as - Fursdon (the oldest family homes in Devon, Powderham Castle home of the Earl of Devon, which is about 20 minutes drive from Exeter.
Misma Hemming - Counsellor, Psychotherapist, Life Coaching, Mentor
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